- Choosing to live unoffended starts by being offended.
- Offense are powerful – they can destroy individuals, marriages, families and beyond.
- Offenses by default focus on the personal pain caused by others.
“Living unoffendable is not about denying the wrongdoing. It seeks a way to love beyond, and to love in spite of the offense.”
How to handle an offense
If a person sins against you
- Have they sinned against me or simply annoyed me?
- If it is annoying, you choose to overlook it. (Pr. 19:11)
- How do I know if it’s sin? Use the Scriptures to define it.
Go to them (directly)
- Do not go to someone else and vent
- The goal is to gain them back
And tell them Their fault
- Lit. “rebuke them” – Expose it
- Motive must be to resolve, not to dump
If they are not open, bring two or three witnesses
- The purpose is to convince the offender of their sin
If they are still hardened, tell it to the church
- Open the circle to those directly related to them in community.
If they still refuse to acknowledge their sin, let me be as pagans
- Extreme situations require extreme measures. (I Cor 5:5)
Offenses that are not addressed, (whenever possible) can lie dormant.
You cannot live unoffendable and have carry offenses you have not addressed.
The #1 ways division happens is when we don’t attempt to resolve conflict. Who do I need to have “the conversation” with?
Having the Conversation with God
…bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
O – bservation
- What is this verse telling me? What is it about?
A – pply
- What and how can I put this into practice?
P – ray
- Turn what you wrote down into a prayer.