Dealing with your inner critic
Romans 6 & 7
Introduction: What is the conversation like in your head?
- Even on our best days there can be thoughts of self-doubt, anxiety, guilt, hopelessness.
- There’s an inner critic that says you are not enough, you don’t measure up; that reminds you of your mistakes
- Mark Manson calls it “the feedback loop from hell.”
KEY THOUGHT: Your inner conversations become your external life.
Where does this feedback loop come from and what can I do about it?
Romans 7 “I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead I do what I hate (v.15 ) So I am not the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it. (v.17)
- The feedback loop is the result of sin, “that is living in me”.
I know that nothing good lives in me, that is in my “flesh” (v. 18)
- “flesh” a more accurate translation than “sinful nature”
- “flesh” refers to human nature which operates apart from God, prone to sin, opposed to God.
We tend to think of sin in terms of behavior. (what we do) But Paul talks about the root of sin or the condition of sin, which involves brokenness. (separation)
Every one of us is shadowed by an illusory person; a false self. A life devoted to the cult of this shadow is what is called a life of sin – Thomas Merton
- Our brokenness is what our inner critic leverages to lie to us.
Romans 6:6 We know that our old sinful selves were crucified with Christ so
that sin might lose its power in our lives.
- On the Cross, Jesus broke the power of sin. We are no longer slaves to sin.
What about the presence of sin? (Ch 6:11)
So you also should consider yourselves to be dead to the power of sin and
alive to God through Christ Jesus.
- “Consider” or reckon or recognize
KEY THOUGHT: Where we focus our attention determines what grows.
Romans 8:6 So letting your flesh control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace.
Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
- Managing Leadership Anxiety (Steve Cuss) “the miracle of salvation isn’t that Jesus stops us from sinning or being tempted to sin. It’s that Jesus changes what our heart wants.
KEY PRACTICE: Jesus broke the power of sin so that I don’t have to